Posts Tagged ‘life’

Dancing With the LIZARD…

Written by mitch. Posted in Blog, General Community, Personal, Uncategorized

Seth Godin calls it ‘the Lizard.’

Steven Pressfield refers to it as ‘the Resistance.’

I haven’t come up with a clever nickname for that annoying monologue that keeps running in my head… The one constantly trying to convince me that I shouldn’t… Or, can’t… Or, couldn’t… Or, won’t!

The one that rejoices in crushing my ambition by continually undermining my self-confidence, with taunts of: You are sure to fail… You will certainly hurt yourself… Everyone will laugh… Why would you even want to… And, my personal favorite:

What makes you think you will succeed when and where everyone else – everyone smarter, stronger and infinitely more intelligent – has failed!

Have you heard that still, small voice whispering to your conscious mind from safe within the confines of your subconscious? Have you been formally introduced?

However you choose to identify it: whether you call it the Lizard or the Resistance or anything else you think might be appropriate, it’s hard to coax the little bastard out in to the open so you can confront him. She’s a lot more comfortable in the dark: infinitely more secure when he can poke at you from the icey blackness of your worst nightmares.

The problem is impunity! She likes it… It suits him… She’s used to the dark. Most comfortable when unchallenged!

Over the years, my relationship with the Lizard has been contentious at best, completely debilitating at its worst!

I don’t keep score… I’m not sure I ever have… But, until very recently I’m sure the wretched little beast was ahead on points. But, with the help of Seth Godin and the altMBA Program, I’m certain that is no longer the case. In fact, I’m convinced I have developed the tools necessary to at least break even when it comes to conquering my worst fears!

What I’ve learned is simple enough – a lesson I should have been able to take from the Mindfullness Movement or from Zen – And, that is to embrace the Fear: to accept it, appreciate it for what it is. What I learned was to recognize the immutable fact that engaging the Lizard in battle: in direct confrontation, will more than likely result in defeat!

The Resistance has no interest in logic or reason! The Fear has no language skills, nor does it have an interest in developing any! The Lizard is real! It is primal and has learned its craft well after millenia of perfect practice!

There is no real chance of defeating her! There can’t be… You exist in the Frontal Cortex and he owns the dark, hidden and obscure convolutions of the Amygdala!

To over come the Fear… To defeat the Resistance and subdue the Lizard… The only chance you have is to accept her, embrace him, acknowledge its existence and then dance with her! That’s right! Walk directly up to the Lizard, bow, extend your hand, pull him close, embrace her and then follow the music of your head and your heart…

What you cannot do… What you must not do… Is allow The Beast to lead! What you must guard against with every ounce of strength, every fiber in your body, is allowing Fear to dictate the terms, conditions, nature or tempo of the dance!

Lead and the Dance is yours… Lead and the Resistance will have no other alternative than to follow…

And, yes, this explanation… This admonition… Was written as much for me as it was for you!

Free Fall…

Written by mitch. Posted in Aftermarket, Blog, Consumer, Distribution, Manufacturing, Repair Community

FREE FALL…

 

I’m not afraid of heights. I should be, but I’m not…

That doesn’t mean I enjoy finding myself perched up above the world so high: feet pressed tightly together, back against the wall, fingers desperately searching for something to grab hold of – anything to grab hold off – on the ledge of an unenclosed aerie somewhere.

Nothing could be further from the truth.

It isn’t that I have no fear of heights or the dangers inherent in falling that precipitates that anxiety… Everyone should experience at least some apprehension when they are getting ready to climb over the railing or step off the ledge. Anything less should be a healthy reason for concern.

I understand that rush of anxiety because I’ve felt it before, more than once.

It isn’t the fear of falling I have to overcome that inhibits me from crawling to the edge of the abyss… It is the overwhelming belief that I can step off the edge and actually fly that scares the hell out of me!

You see whenever I find myself standing on that ledge, looking down with my toes curled tightly over the edge, I not only know I can fly… I can’t wait to prove it!

Realistically, this is not the healthiest of neuroses.  But, rather than allow it to cripple me: to prevent me from ever looking out over some of the incredible panoramas I’ve been privileged to experience; I recognize and embrace my fears, take a deep breath, approach the edge, confront the desire to jump, white-knuckle the railing, and hold on to whatever I can find with every ounce of strength I can muster!

Don’t worry. I’m not crazy enough to step off the ledge, at least not yet. I know I can’t really fly and perhaps more important, I know what would happen if I was delusional enough to try!

I also recognize how important it is to overcome the fear, apprehension and anxiety associated with finding yourself on the edge. More than that, I finally understand just how important it is to put yourself there in order to test yourself: in order to overcome.

If you’re a shop owner you may understand what that really means: to you, your family, your employees, your clients and your community.

When you find yourself standing in the driveway, ready to unlock the door and swing the gate open, you’ve already reached the mouth of the cave and walked out on to the ledge. You’re already poised at the precipice. And, when you step inside, across that threshold, you’ve essentially climbed over the railing and allowed gravity to take its course. You’ve already stepped off the observation deck or the side of the mountain.

Unless you’re expecting the call, you don’t know who is calling when the phone rings. And, unless that client has called, you have no idea what’s wrong with that ’08 Camry that just pulled down the driveway.

The minute you engage you’re in free-fall and unless you are a B.A.S.E.-Jumper and your chute is packed properly, you’re pretty much on your own.

But, that isn’t the real issue, is it? We’re all forced to step off the cliff… Or, that bridge… Or, the antennae or ledge from time to time, aren’t we? We’re all forced to deal with the unknown: the incomprehensible.

If we are reluctant to call it “Life,” we should feel comfortable simply calling it entrepreneurship; or, maybe even just business.

The truth is we can’t move forward without leaning forward, and we cannot lean forward without the risk of falling. The risk is just as real as the fear and both must be conquered before movement of any kind can or will occur.

I’m not altogether comfortable with that, but I am unwilling to forgo the possible wonder and beauty that surrounds us all by surrendering myself to the natural fear of falling or the desire to fly.

Being out there on the edge is more than worth it.

Besides, Free Falling is only uncomfortable if you are continually looking down at the rapidly approaching terrain. It isn’t nearly as bad if you choose to look out and around! And, who knows, if you’re clever enough to have a parachute: one that works, there is no end to the beauty and wonder that’s out there… No limit to what you might see!

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Till then, stay well, take care, make money, have fun and don’t do business with anyone you don’t like. There is probably a very good reason you don’t like them and you don’t really need to find out what that reason is!