Posts Tagged ‘fear’

Dancing With the LIZARD…

Written by mitch. Posted in Blog, General Community, Personal, Uncategorized

Seth Godin calls it ‘the Lizard.’

Steven Pressfield refers to it as ‘the Resistance.’

I haven’t come up with a clever nickname for that annoying monologue that keeps running in my head… The one constantly trying to convince me that I shouldn’t… Or, can’t… Or, couldn’t… Or, won’t!

The one that rejoices in crushing my ambition by continually undermining my self-confidence, with taunts of: You are sure to fail… You will certainly hurt yourself… Everyone will laugh… Why would you even want to… And, my personal favorite:

What makes you think you will succeed when and where everyone else – everyone smarter, stronger and infinitely more intelligent – has failed!

Have you heard that still, small voice whispering to your conscious mind from safe within the confines of your subconscious? Have you been formally introduced?

However you choose to identify it: whether you call it the Lizard or the Resistance or anything else you think might be appropriate, it’s hard to coax the little bastard out in to the open so you can confront him. She’s a lot more comfortable in the dark: infinitely more secure when he can poke at you from the icey blackness of your worst nightmares.

The problem is impunity! She likes it… It suits him… She’s used to the dark. Most comfortable when unchallenged!

Over the years, my relationship with the Lizard has been contentious at best, completely debilitating at its worst!

I don’t keep score… I’m not sure I ever have… But, until very recently I’m sure the wretched little beast was ahead on points. But, with the help of Seth Godin and the altMBA Program, I’m certain that is no longer the case. In fact, I’m convinced I have developed the tools necessary to at least break even when it comes to conquering my worst fears!

What I’ve learned is simple enough – a lesson I should have been able to take from the Mindfullness Movement or from Zen – And, that is to embrace the Fear: to accept it, appreciate it for what it is. What I learned was to recognize the immutable fact that engaging the Lizard in battle: in direct confrontation, will more than likely result in defeat!

The Resistance has no interest in logic or reason! The Fear has no language skills, nor does it have an interest in developing any! The Lizard is real! It is primal and has learned its craft well after millenia of perfect practice!

There is no real chance of defeating her! There can’t be… You exist in the Frontal Cortex and he owns the dark, hidden and obscure convolutions of the Amygdala!

To over come the Fear… To defeat the Resistance and subdue the Lizard… The only chance you have is to accept her, embrace him, acknowledge its existence and then dance with her! That’s right! Walk directly up to the Lizard, bow, extend your hand, pull him close, embrace her and then follow the music of your head and your heart…

What you cannot do… What you must not do… Is allow The Beast to lead! What you must guard against with every ounce of strength, every fiber in your body, is allowing Fear to dictate the terms, conditions, nature or tempo of the dance!

Lead and the Dance is yours… Lead and the Resistance will have no other alternative than to follow…

And, yes, this explanation… This admonition… Was written as much for me as it was for you!

There! I’ve Gone And Done It…

Written by mitch. Posted in Aftermarket, Blog, Consumer, Distribution, General Community, Manufacturing, Personal, Repair Community, Uncategorized

I’ve taught enough classes on Goals & Objectives to recognize just how important it is to share those Goals & Objectives publically when it’s time to accomplish whatever it is you’ve set out to do.

It should be a ‘No-Brainer,’ as there is nothing less at stake than your dreams. So, it’s only reasonable to assume that having an army of people close to  you constantly asking:

“How you doin’ with those Goals & Objectives you said you would have completed by last Thursday?

Everything goin’ OK?

They done yet?”

would be enough… All the pressure any of us would need to move forward.

Unfortunately, that’s not the case. Not because publicly posting your Goals & Objectives doesn’t work. It does! But, it only works if you do it, and most of us don’t.

In fact, most of us don’t have written goals and objectives at all, and wouldn’t post them publicly if they did! The fear is overwhelming!

I know this from personal experience as I was among the many who could not – Or, would not – bring themselves to share their Goals & Objectives with anyone!

Nevertheless, I’ve decided to post two of my professional Goals here – along with my personal Mission Statement. They are two (2) of the Primary Goals  I shared with my altMBA12 Cohort during my participation in Seth Godin’s altMBA Program, an experience that appeared in the October 2017 issue of Ratchet+Wrench.

 

 

It was an experience that changed my life.

I keep the Mission Statement in my wallet… and these two (2) Goals & Objectives on top of the printer on my desk. I keep them on the printer so I can look at them every time I need to move them in order to print something !

The Mission Statement is a constant reminder of who I am and why I do what I do. It reads:

To benefit, enrich and improve the lives of others by sharing my personal knowledge and experience through my writing, speaking and interactions… 

That’s the bar: the standard I use to evaluate every task, every request, every demand on my time. It’s the standard to which I hold myself accountable. It’s important because of what I’ve been doing with myself over the past four months.

Professional Goal #1

Staying in the game…

To increase my reach as an Industry leader through my writing, blogging, video blogging, speaking, presentations and seminar work.

Professional Goal #2 

Finish Misfire…

Finish Misfire: the management allegory I’ve been “playing with” for years. 

The interesting thing about Goals & Objectives is that they are subject to change depending upon circumstance. At the beginning of the altMBA process I would have told you – as I told all the members of my Cohort – that my Primary Goal, the most important and effective use of my time, the most consistent with my personal Mission, would have been to dive headfirst into filling the pages of this website.

I believed with a perfect faith that’s what I would have to do to best serve my Mission. Then, as I worked my way through the alt process I realized that I had been lying to myself and everyone else. What bubbled to the surface was the realization that the single most important thing I could do: for myself… and, quite possibly everyone else, was complete the book.

As a result of that realization and my commitment to face that fear, I dove headfirst into the cold, lonely, frightening and insecure depths of my imagination and started writing. I approached completing the book with the same obsessive/compulsive energy I bring to just about every project I’m passionate about. And, here’s something I never really thought I’d ever be able to say despite having already completed an 8-Volume Automotive Shop Management series!

With the exception of some “light” technical research and adding a little more depth to one or two of the characters, it’s DONE!

Done to the point I actually allowed two other human beings to read it and tear it apart… But, neither did! Tear it apart, that is!

In fact, they both liked it!

Now, my priorities are to complete the manuscript and then figure out what to do with it: how best to present it to you and the world. That, and move on to Goal #1!

Here’s where you come in…

A goal, written or otherwise, is nothing more than a wish or a dream if it isn’t accompanied by a deadline…

When I finished the altMBA program in late August of this year, my commitment was to have the manuscript completely finished and ready for a professional edit by the end of February 2018. I’ll have the reasearch I need completed by mid-January and then it’s six weeks to the finish line.

I’m writing again… More and more! Writing about the automotive service aftermarket and the repair community, two things I’ve always cared deeply about. But, I’ve also decided that I have things to say about other topics as well, and I’ll be addressing some of those as we move forward.

So, here’s my email address: mitch@mitchschneidersworld.com

If there’s something you have a question about or something you want to vent about: something that’s really bothering you about our industry – where it is and/or where it’s going – Or, anything else… Let me know! Email me!

If you’re interested in what’s happening with the book… Any of my other projects or anything else I’m involved with… Email me!

If you think there is something worthy of praise that needs to be illuminated: something (Or, someone!) that makes you particularly proud of who you are and what you do – Email me!

If you think there is an issue – Something that has nothing to do with the Aftermarket – Something that should be addressed, but hasn’t been – You get it! You know what to do! Email me!

If you feel inspired to write down your own goals and objectives and are willing to be held accountable… Well, then, let me know and I’ll email you!